When all you want to do is SCREAM !!
Life inside the 4 walls of a church isn't always perfect... actually its seldom is. Often we forget that a church is really made up of men and women, boys and girls all trying to be more like our savior one day at a time, however sometimes in a 1 step forward 2 steps back approach. As leaders in children's ministry, either on staff or volunteer we find ourselves in HIGH STRESS Circumstances. It may be dealing with upset parents or even a volunteer working with us.
I came across this tid-bit of information a few weeks back and didn't realize how valuable it was until just recently when I had to use it! This loving and calm approach works wonders for both your anxiety and to assist in controlling potentially damaging situations.
I found these techniques along with a private scream and short cry (LOL) worked wonders for me!! I thought I would pass it along in hopes that maybe with lots of prayer and guidance from our Gracious Heavenly Father you too can show His love when confronted with HIGH STRESS !!
"When you need to confront a volunteer about a high-stress matter, try this low-key technique from Communication Briefings:
• Separate intent from impact. If a volunteer has made a mistake, politely ask, “What were you trying to do?” before you analyze the damage.
• Make “I feel” statements. Describe how the person’s actions made you feel. For example, “I feel powerless when you go over my head.” Then listen to the other person’s feelings. By sharing your feelings, you create a bond.
• Step back and evaluate what’s at stake. Rather than casting blame, reflect on your own behavior to determine to what extent you might be responsible. A dose of perspective can help wash away your anger or fear so you can listen openly."
Excerpted from Group Magazine
Have a great week serving HIM !
Pam